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Many Partings

“I’ve heard it said
That people come into our lives
For a reason, bringing something we must learn,
And we are led
To those who help us most to grow
If we let them,
And we help them in return.”

— ‘Wicked’

Ok, so I’m stealing a title from Tolkein today. Not exactly proud but it fits. I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately about people and relationships. Lots and lots of thinking. See, it’s coming up on a year – tomorrow, in fact – since a lot of people that I considered close friends disappeared from my life. That was a hard life lesson to learn – the fact that just because you consider someone a close friend doesn’t necessarily mean that they are one. Or that they feel the same way.

My naive little self just never realized that. And it was hard. And hurt a lot. Still does. A dream the other night about one of these people brought it all back, so that’s where my brain has fixated. Lots of introspection, and most of it not fun.

But then I have to look at all of the new, and positive, influences and individuals who’ve crossed my path since then. So many. Connections and reconnections who have helped me to grow more than I ever thought possible. I’ve learned so much about myself and my priorities that I can’t write it off as coincidence.

Ok, now I’m waxing sentimental. But you know what? I don’t believe in coincidence anymore. There is a grand plan. And I’ve learned to accept and welcome the fact that I don’t know what it is. All I can do is take the next step on my path. And that’s a good thing.

So I guess my question is, why are relationships so transient? Why do people drift in and out of our lives with such ease these days? Remember when you were a kid and you swore that you’d be Best Friends Forever? It seemed so normal and you never questioned that it would be that way.

Life doesn’t work that way, does it?

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I’m the Green Girl

Just for the record, I read Wicked a long time ago. When the book was first published. And loved it. The satire, allegory and symbolism are amazing – not to mention that it’s just a great story. So when they produced the musical a few years ago I was instantly intrigued. Not to mention the fact that I love Idina Menzel.

Had to wait a while to actually see the show, but when we finally got tickets I was like a kid in a candy store. Couldn’t sleep the night before. And I’m pretty sure I annoyed my spouse with my almost-constant commentary during the show – similarities to the book, etc.

And then it hit me.

I’m the green girl.

I haven’t led a charmed life. There have been times when I didn’t fit in and was judged or ostracized because of my beliefs, actions or looks. But you know what? Us green girls have got a few things to say too. And the music! Oh my goodness, it’s amazing! The harmonies, rhythms and lyrics touched me in a way that was beyond surreal. It seems like every song can relate to so many situations.

‘Popular?’ any former teenage girl knows about this one.

‘For Good?’ I’ve got two friends that I always think of here. Wonderful women who would and have stuck by me in so many times in my life.

‘I’m Not that Girl?’ Ladies, we’ve all been there.

‘Defying Gravity?’ I’m still waiting for my moment on this one. But as I learn to stand up for myself more, I think I’m getting closer.

I could go on and on. Really. If you’ve seen it or heard the music you know what I mean. And if you haven’t – give it a go. It will touch you too, I promise.

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